Heal, Be You - Your Identity

Your existence is the very proof you deserve to BE. There is a reason why out of billions of genetic possibilities, it was YOU who made it.

Symptoms of the identity wound

  • “I am nobody” – an overall feeling of emptiness and disconnection

  • “I am not enough” – a desire to “prove” oneself

  • “If I don’t fit in, I don’t exist” – a desire to be liked by everyone

  • A tendency to copy other people, but at the same time a lack of defining role models

  • A desire to get unnoticed, fear of expressing one’s opinions and beliefs

  • Difficulty to connect with one’s body or feelings

  • …or on the contrary, desperation to prove one’s uniqueness by behaving odd, or by adopting a strange appearance or mannerism

  • A tendency to hurt oneself, physically or psychologically – self-inflicted wounds, abuse of drugs and medication, feeling ‘numb’

What can you do about your feelings of worthlessness? Can the wound of identity be healed?

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“No achievement, no money or glory can heal this wound – because being you is not about becoming something you are not, but is about learning to accept that it is OK to be you!”

Past wounds hold on to us as though we are caged in them. Remind yourself,

The past; is a place from which we recall memories, what some call experience, in essence, what shapes who we are.

The past is for learning from, to look back and to take from it all that is plausible. It is not for dwelling and considering the "what ifs" and "might have been". Motivations for things are also unnecessary. People lie, and why they lie doesn't really change the fact that they lied. If you know why they did it, would that justify them doing it? Most likely not, so why spend time asking such senseless questions? Is any reason for lying, a good one? Or cheating? Think about what all that fighting accomplishes.

People spend so much time trying to change the past, trying to pretend that things didn't happen, but in reality, they did. So, people must learn to swallow the past, and move forward, because no excuses or explanations will justify or alter what has already happened with the commitment to take accountability to make necessary chances to our being so that our present blossoms through the past errors.

So, think about it, are you thinking about tomorrow, or still thinking about yesterday? And if you are still stuck on the past, notice that no matter how much you think about it, it is still there, exactly as it happened. Even better, be grateful for the past as it has brought you to exactly where you need to be. The past has served you and served well. That pain was exactly what you needed at that point, embrace it.

“Every human is doing their best with the resources and understanding of life they have. No human is out on purpose wanting to bring pain to another.”

~ @AfrrozHudli @AttitudeNLove

Address and heal – once and for all – the wound of identity, taking responsibility for your existence, is about being present with your wounds, with your pain and with your shame. Show yourself despite the pain. You are going to feel it, no doubt. But no matter what, you need to show yourself, do what you need to do, take a step forward, to BE YOU.

Yes, not only you have the right to exist, but you are here for a reason. 

You were born with a unique mission.

You were born to express the divine in your unique way, to live through your unique gifts, talents, and skills. You are much more than you think. The stars, the whole universe collided so you could be here today.

“Don’t make me prove, 

Why I should be, Why I belong, Why I deserve to be here

I deserve….

I know that I am, I am

And so is anyone who can walk, who can talk, who can laugh, who cry, feel pain

So is anyone who can’t speak, who can’t hear, who can’t see, who’s never had a free mind

So is anyone whether brown or white or any other color

We’re Beautifully human"

Beautiful, Beautiful, Beautifully human, Beautiful”

When you allow your true self to shine through, there is no more pain, there is no more wound. You achieve self-realization.

Self-realization happens when all the broken parts of you come together to form a whole.

But you need to put ALL these parts together. Yes, even those you are ashamed of. They are part of you too, they are part of your story.

By allowing them to exist, you allow yourself to exist. And this is how you find the key, the higher order, the higher meaning of your existence.

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