How Do You Know He #L0V€S and #Adores You?

Rumi’s “The Mouse and The Frog” captures what true intimacy is. It is one of my favorite works of his.
“They open easily, telling stories, and dreams and secrets. Empty of any fear or suspicious holding back… sometimes when two beings come together The Infinite Intelligence becomes visible… speech flowing, river running, all-carrying momentum that true intimacy is.”

 
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How does one know her man #L0V3S and #Adores her?

Here are four signs that your man #L0V3S and #Adores you. Pay close attention.

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1. Put Your Partner First

He will treat you as his Queen. You can open up your heart to him and enjoy your time that you are spending with him. You will not have to worry about where this is going and if there is a future together. He is investing, not money but, effort of some sort that costs him something. Example: Say you are on different continents, and he did post on FB a question to people in his tribe. Simultaneously you did leave him a nice FB msg to share about your day or ask him questions. Now given that he only has 24 hrs, he will take the time to write back a nice FB msg to you and only after that will be inclined to responding to all the comments on his post. This prioritisation may not happen all the time but will be frequent enough for you to know how much he appreciates you. Simple things like wishing you at mid night 12 dot on your birthday, remembering your big event days, making simple joys of life special for you et al. You are his Queen and he goes that extra mile to show you just that. And the best part is, you didn’t even have to ask for it he does it of his own accord.
When a man ignores you / your FB msg, it is as painful as when a rhino hits you. His ignoring you is a very clear sign he has no interest in you. If he admires, respects, adores, loves you he won’t ignore you or your FB msg. He will always promptly respond to your msg, even if it is just to let you know that he appreciates you and your msg.
He will not waste his time flirting with any and all his female friends that he is connected with on FB. He will make it very clear that you are his Queen not just to you but also to his tribe.

2. He Protects You

Men are designed to protect a woman they #L0V3 not like. When you are together in public space or even online and there are other guys who don’t mean well (dangerous situation in public space, or someone tearing your confidence down or bullying you online for example), the man who does #L0V3 you will step in to protect you (not that you need it, cause you can take care of it given the independent woman that you are). He will be afraid, scared but he will be there for you, strong! And the best part is, he won’t have to think about it. His love is so strong for you that he can’t image his life without you.
Now don’t go looking for danger to test your guy. There are other signs like how does he treat you when you are sick, does he check-in on you? If you are on different continents, does he call you? Does he read you a story so that you can fall a sleep? When you are together out in the cold does he offer you his jacket to keep you warm?

3. He Does Not Manipulative You

Does he want to change you as a person or does he accept you as you are? Does he use who you are against you? Is he thinking about your feelings or just his own feelings? Does he make the time to listen to you when you are emotional? Does he gift you the gift of presence? Does he go the extra mile to meet you halfway? If the answers to these questions are all in the negative, he does not love you. A man who loves you, will love you just the way you are with all your imperfections. Neither will you need to drown your roar to make him feel like a man.

We all deserve to find someone who does not ask you to lessen your roar, who is in awe of the magnitude by which your passion burns. We deserve to find someone who will only ever want to add to your fire, someone who will use their own matchstick heart to encourage your passion and to magnify your flame. This is very relevant to me given that am a #SunBornPiscesAries woman who needs her man to be strong as well as fully understand interdependence.

For me, its about 'us' not 'i'.

Btw, expressing emotions and even crying, is not a sign of weakness in men. It takes courage to pour your heart out and give the gift of trust to another. Treasure that gift from your man. Also small things like, him telling you, “I like your hair down” does not count as manipulating. It’s about your personality, he shouldn’t be manipulating your personality.

4. He Tells You He Loves You

Not just a text or call but really hugs you tight and affectionately and tells you that he loves you, were by you can actually feel he really means it. Does he take the time to cuddle, caress you? In the bed room, as husband and wife, does he just dose off after sensual pleasures or is he up in to the night past sensual pleasures talking to you, cuddling you?

There is no such thing as a perfect man but when these 4 signs pop up from time to time with regards your man you should know you are fortunate to be his queen. 😊

And such a man is worthy to be showered with your unconditional love, appreciation. treasured and celebrated!

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